Reflection for December 18
By this point in our Advent journey, we’ve read quite a bit about the first two members of the Holy Family, Jesus and the Blessed Mother (and for good reason!) Today, we’re introduced to the third, St. Joseph.
What I love about this gospel passage is that it’s messy. Joseph finds himself in a tough situation, to say the least. Although we, centuries later, know how things play out…he doesn't. The story is just beginning. If we put ourselves in his place, we can imagine that he feels confused. Hurt. Scared. Like the rug has been pulled out from under him. Like his world is ending. We know what that feels like, don’t we?
What’s so striking is how Joseph responds. In a time when women had virtually no power, he could’ve silenced Mary and spread a narrative of scandal. In a time when – and it’s sickening to think about – it was within his ‘right,’ he could’ve seen her stoned for apparent adultery. But he doesn’t. Although he doesn’t understand, he chooses to honor Mary as best as he knows how and plans to divorce her quietly. Again, from where we stand 2000 years later, this might seem like the obvious (humane) choice, but – considering the societal norms of his time – it speaks to Joseph's compassionate, discerning heart.
But God calls him even deeper. Appearing to him in a dream, a messenger of the Lord commands Joseph to trust. To trust Mary and, more importantly, to trust God. And he does. He still doesn’t have all the details. Circumstances don't become any easier. But Joseph is faithful: to God in Heaven, to Emmanuel –God with us – and to Mary, his mother. Joseph takes them into his home. And with the ear of his heart ever inclined toward Heaven, he honors them, protects them, loves them. He completes the Holy Family.
Today’s gospel reminds us that St. Joseph is no stranger to messy situations. He’s been there. The Holy Family – they've been there. And so, when we find ourselves in crisis, when we feel like our world is coming to an end, we can take comfort in the fact that the Holy Family understands.
Today’s gospel is also – much like Joseph’s dream – a call. A call to deeper, more complete trust in God. How will we respond?
St. Joseph, pray for us.
Caelie Flanagan